What is happiness? Happiness does not mean being joyous or laughing all day long. Although happiness should be defined by each of us, a general understanding of it could be having more good moments and memories than bad ones and having an overall feeling of satisfaction and fulfillment. So, how can we have more happy moments?
Give yourself permission. A lot people have the impression that we are not permitted to be happy, that we do not deserve it. Well, we are all WRONG! Most of us deserve to be happy, regardless of what others say or even what we believe. And if you look deep inside you, you will feel it in your gut. So give yourself permission to be. Yes, smile as often as you can. If you’re with people, they’ll feel warmer and react likewise. If you’re alone, smile for at least 3 minutes and your brain will take it as a real smile and will start producing feel-good hormones and other chemicals.
Enjoy the now. Feeling bad about the past will not alter it a bit and worrying about the future will not make you any more prepared for whatever it’s that finally happens. Hopelessness lives in the past, fear later on. Choose the now and make an effort to live it. Just in the now can you really be free.
Like yourself. Make a list of what you like on your own, no matter how small or big and remind yourself of all those traits a couple of times each day.
Love yourself. Nightly, when you go to bed, dedicate a few minutes to simply feel love for yourself. Thank yourself for anything good you did during the day and let the warmth of love fill you up. If that’s too hard, shut your eyes and look for the small child you once were and who still lives inside you and shower that kid with your love.
Flip it around. Somebody tells you something or does something you do not like? You might get mad, upset or feel ill-treated. Or maybe you turn it around by being first and choosing to interpret it as a wakeup call or as a funny situation. They called you something… choose to find it funny rather than offensive. They push you, ignore you or even talk about you… choose to consider it merely a reminder that we’re all people and, as such, make errors. Really like the humanity in those who upset you.
Dare yourself. Early in the morning dare yourself to do something unexpected or different during the day. Choose the action in the morning so you have the whole day to find the ideal moment to do it. You don’t need to think of very difficult or adventurous plans but only something you would not usually do, like visiting a certain store or eating a new type of food.
Share love. Say something loving to a person (or more) today. You can say it out loud or in writing. You can even draw it or sing it.
Try new words. Are you among those who frequently uses words such us… ‘can’t’, ‘don’t understand’, ‘never’… ? Why not try to use some simpler ones like: ‘Indian Harbour Beach Raccoon Removal‘, ‘would like to know’ or ‘not in the tradition of’… ? Or choose a positive or happy word you want to use today and try and use it as often as you can. Be courageous and imaginative with your own words.
Count your blessings. Take a sheet of paper and something you like to drink and sit comfortably maybe with some nice music in the background. Then write. Compose a list of all and every blessing on your life. Begin with the smallest ones: I am alive… to the largest ones you can feel. Don’t leave anything out. As soon as you’re done, leave the list on the table. Read it every morning during breakfast for a week.